Communication is necessary between spouses going through a divorce. Regardless of the type of divorce you choose, chances are you will need to share information with your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
Unfortunately, communicating with them can lead to misunderstandings. But you can avoid this.
Here are four tips for communicating with your spouse during divorce:
1. Be calm
Discussing divorce-related matters can result in emotions. However, you should try as much as you can to remain calm even when you believe your spouse is being unfair. Allow them to speak without interrupting and respond calmly but firmly.
You should also avoid talking with your spouse when you are upset. If they contact you after a long day at work or when you are not in the space to have sensitive discussions, politely ask them to postpone the meeting.
2. Agree on what to talk about
You and your spouse should list the topics to discuss regarding the divorce. Doing this can save you from unnecessary communication. If either of you initiates a conversation not included in the agreed-upon list, the other should be free to refuse to participate in it.
3. Choose a communication method
Not agreeing on a communication mode can lead to conflicts. You need to choose whether to contact each other via phone call, email or text and/or when to use each. Don’t forget to pick a communication channel for emergencies.
4. Pay attention to your nonverbal cues
Your nonverbal communication matters as much as verbal communication. Thus, always pay attention to your body language, facial expressions, posture and eye contact when talking with your spouse. Avoid cues that can lead to misunderstandings.
Although communication during divorce is beneficial, it can lead to conflicts. Get legal guidance to approach this from the right angle.